Losers: Why some are still winners

Content

• The loser's reputation comes quickly
• Why we like to see others as losers
• Losers can be very different
• Losers are often already on their way to becoming winners
• You learn not to let yourself get down
• You learn to keep an eye on your goals
• You learn from your mistakes
• You get to know yourself better
• You learn not to focus on doubt

A loser is no longer only spoken of in sports. Often it is used derogatory description and insult to someone who has failed with a project. This can be professional, for example if the attempt to become self-employed does not work because your own company is on the verge of bankruptcy or if the employer is dismissed at work. In the private sphere, too, one can speak of losers if someone - viewed from the outside - cannot steer his life in a regular direction, repeatedly messes up relationships or has other problems to contend with over and over again. In professional terms, in particular, it is often forgotten that many so-called losers are actually winners, who will continue to show this in the future ...

The loser's reputation comes quickly

If you want to be perceived as a real winner, someone who achieves their goals, who is successful and who takes advantage of their opportunities, you have to prepare for some work. The road to such a reputation is tough and rocky, at first you will probably be assumed to be lucky, you will be confronted with criticism and envy and you really have to prove that you have what it takes to be a winner.

On the other hand, when it comes to losers, things are very different. You get a reputation for being a loser in no time and you usually don't have to do much to get it. Instead, the reputation is pinned to you - and then unfortunately it is not so easy to get rid of.

A misstep, a failed project, an unsuccessful plan and there will be someone who sees you as a loser and who will also share and spread this opinion in their environment. In today's competitive society in particular, success and results are rated so highly that even one-off deviations are given a corresponding weight.

Why we like to see others as losers

Calling someone else a loser - publicly or at least in your own mind - is almost always superficial, as the background is rarely known and the other person is usually not even known personally. Even so, it happens a lot and many seem to feel the need to see someone else as a loser. But why actually?

Behind this is the desire to feel better about yourself, to polish up your own self-confidence and ego a bit and to rise above others. In other words, if someone else is a loser, you are definitely a winner by comparison - despite your own problems, mistakes, or perhaps experiences of failure.

Losers can be very different

There is no differentiated consideration when it comes to losers. In most minds everyone is lumped together: a loser is a loser is a loser. But such a black and white perspective ignores the fact that there can be big differences.

The following applies in principle: Anyone who tries and risks something can lose and so everyone can initially become a loser. Remaining a loser, on the other hand, is a matter of attitude. Anyone who sinks into self-pity, loses courage, gives up and surrenders to his fate without wanting to change anything, will not get out of this low in the future either.

There are such extreme cases, but by no means all of them display such a mentality. For many people, defeat is just a stopover, a brief setback on the way to long-term success. Losing is not bad, it is part of it when you broaden your horizons, try new things or strive for change.

Even a loser's reputation isn't bad as long as it doesn't reflect your personal attitude. In the end, you are solely responsible for how you deal with the situation - and whether you see yourself as a loser or whether you are on your way to becoming a winner.

Losers are often already on their way to becoming winners

Losing is not final, life goes on afterwards, even if it hurts at the beginning and it doesn't necessarily get easier. But many success stories also show: It rarely works immediately, and it is not uncommon for a great success to be preceded by one or two defeats, but in the end losers become real winners. It's not just a coincidence. Rather, losers go through good training when it comes to being successful in hindsight - and during that time they learn some very important things that will help them in the future:

• You learn not to let yourself get down

  It feels good when everything always seems to be working out and there are no major difficulties. But it won't always go on like this, and if an obstacle does come up, it's better to be prepared for it. Losers already know what it's like to deal with difficult times and they haven't given up. Instead, you have developed resilience, the ability to keep fighting and persevering even when things are tough and things go wrong. This can then also be relied on in the future.

• You learn to keep an eye on your goals

  Most people want everything right now. Nothing can go fast enough, there is no time to wait and if something does not work out at the same moment, then something else is looked for. Anyone who has ever been a loser, on the other hand, knows that success can sometimes be a long time coming, but that it is worthwhile to stick with it and fight for it. Losers also have greater patience and often more determination than others who have not yet been in a similar situation when it comes to further projects.

• You learn from your mistakes

  Mistakes are still the best school. What went wrong once is done differently the next time and the difficulties that led to failure can be overcome in the second attempt. Losers who do not give up but want to carry on have already had a test run, so to speak, an attempt in which they could practice and try out in order to understand what works and what does not work.

• You get to know yourself better

  Losing not only shapes the character, it helps to better understand one's strengths and weaknesses, to create a new and more precise self-image and to work on one's own abilities and characteristics. In combination with the last point, losers can recognize which strengths are particularly important and necessary for the project and expand them in a targeted manner in order to be even better equipped for the future and to adapt their own profile to the objective.

• You learn not to focus on doubt

  Most people fear failure and then end up losing out. The result: instead of trying, it is left the same and everything stays the same. Success is very difficult to achieve with such a passive strategy. Losers, however, have already learned that it doesn't matter if something doesn't work out. You have already been in the situation, have fought your way out again and know that in case of doubt you will be able to do it again.Instead of just seeing their own doubts, they have the courage to try and put new things into practice.