Self-Faith: How to Find Faith in Yourself (back)

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• Role models provide support
• Dealing with setbacks is critical to self-belief
• Responsibility increases with age
• This is how you learn to believe in yourself
• Leave your comfort zone
• Make a note of achievements
• Do something positive

Do you remember, how you learned to walk? Probably not. Too small. But let's rephrase the question: Do you know how babies learn to walk? You fall down. Dozens of times a day. Nevertheless, they keep climbing up chairs or table legs, briefly wiggling their butts - and finally letting go: the Self-belief inspires them. Then they run a few steps - and fall back down (or into their parents' arms). According to an international study, babies need at least 1,000 of these wobbly steps before they can walk. But they have it all ...

Role models provide support

Children learn from strong role models. They give them support. Literally.

They learn because they can see that it is possiblethat it is fun to run because there is greater freedom and broader horizons when you stand upright.

They learn because they believe they will one day be able to do it themselves. And because they never give up. This self-belief is almost unshakable in infancy. At this age, children are a blank slate, they simply lack negative experiences, so they literally cannot worry about possible setbacks.

Add to that the constant encouragement and that Parents' praise: You can do it ... just two more steps, then you are with me ... It is such experiences that stimulate the spirit of discovery and the curiosity of children.

Dealing with setbacks is critical to self-belief

Then they grow up - and don't believe in yourself anymore. It's a pity, what happened on the way to adulthood? You have lost faith in yourself.

Of course, running is just a metaphor for countless other thingsthat we could achieve in life if there was sufficient self-belief.

Instead, many people can do that opposite phenomenon Observe: The older you get, the stronger the self-doubts become. Some people lack positive role models.

They surround themselves with toxic people who drag them down in their negativity. Anyone who only blacks out and looks pessimistic into the future can do something different no motivational words give me on the way.

In other cases like negative or even traumatic experiences make someone resigned. Setbacks in and of themselves do not have to be a reason for a lack of self-belief. Nobody has only positive experiences, everyone experiences unsightly things. Dealing with such experiences is crucial.

Psychology speaks of resilience. That is the mental resiliencethat keeps people going despite a bad childhood, illness or loss.

Here, too, self-belief leaves these people Try something new. They do not give up because they know - also from experience - that they have the necessary skills to cross the valley. And competencies are less about specialist knowledge than about the appropriate mindset.

The following Parable and story also illustrates well how we sometimes set ourselves (and unnecessarily) boundaries:

Responsibility increases with age

The fact that some people have lost faith in themselves due to a lack of role models or negative experiences can be explained rationally, but should not be a reason. Of course everyone is allowed to have one Phase of whining to have.

Everything stupid, partner gone, job gone and in general - that happens. It becomes difficult when someone withdraws completely into this position. Then one becomes temporary phase an attitude, learned helplessness.

From a certain age it is each responsible for himself. Even in advanced adulthood, no one can refer to what went badly in childhood. At least not if he wants to change things for the better in a solution-oriented manner.

It is important to have self-belief from oneself comes - if you don't believe in yourself, who is supposed to do it? If you think about it for a moment, you will be able to confirm it immediately. Of course, praise, appreciation and recognition from outsiders are important. But that alone is not enough.

If you think deep down that you can do nothing, radiates that outward. And this is how you sit in the interview or in the salary negotiation: Actually, I can't do anything. If I get the job / raise, it's pure coincidence.

This is how you learn to believe in yourself

The first step on the Road to recovery is always self-knowledge. If you find that your belief in yourself could be nurtured again, you should try the following tips:

• Leave your comfort zone

  Whoever only does what he can already do, will not grow. In this way you consolidate a certain routine, but nothing more. Quite a few people tend to make themselves comfortable in their comfort zone. Everything is familiar, no fuss, no stress. Fear of rejection and failure make some resigned. Unfortunately, they do not experience what is still possible in this way. With new experience, skills in new areas also grow.

  Tip: Try something new. A new style of clothing. Go to new clubs. Learn a new language, in short: try other things, give yourself new input.

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• Make a note of achievements

  You may not be where you want to be right now. But that doesn't mean you can't score. Deficit-oriented thinking means that people only see what is currently not working. That won't get you anywhere.

  Tip: Instead, look at what you've accomplished so far. Perhaps with a great deal of effort you passed the Abitur - not the best average, but you made it. Or realized after dropping out of your studies where your true inclinations and abilities lie. Or you've lived abroad for a while and found that you can adjust and adapt to other people with ease. It doesn't have to be great success at all: With a view to the comfort zone, you should note everything that is extraordinary for you and where you have managed to overcome (inner) resistance.

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• Do something positive

  As mentioned, there are people and behaviors that are counterproductive. Some people tend to get themselves into a carousel of thought through constant brooding. Instead of dealing with real problems, they often think too much in advance about situations that are guaranteed to end negatively - in their imagination. Such thoughts inhibit and let neither creative nor positive arise.

  Tip: Your self-belief is given new impetus through positive thinking. Encourage yourself - if you take a look at your success diary from time to time, you will have every reason to be optimistic. You can write particularly beautiful or important things on a Post-it and stick them where you often look.

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